A Dream

We were a group somewhere working at some sort of conference. My dog was there, as were other peoples' dogs and they were all in soft sided crates put right next to each other in one area of a room. Uh oh, will she be able to bite through this fabric?

We talked amongst ourselves as people do when they work together. My best friend from High School was there and we were laughing. Our projects took us from room to room. Were we carrying and moving things? Setting up as in where is everyone going to sleep? Was it like camping only indoors? It was a temporary situation, but was it because of terror threats or loss of electricity? Something was going on, but all I remember is that we were in a group.

(This is one of my recurring dreams, traveling and working in a group. Most of these dreams I've had are about everyone else seemingly knowing what their place is and what they are supposed to be doing and I am sidelined trying to figure it out.)

There was a man there who spoke with me and others a few times and I found him interesting. I don't remember what he said, or even the topic, but he caught my interest. Our conversation was brief but I was able to talk to him and respond to his comments with something he apparently found interesting in return. He was nice, he was intelligant, he was funny and he was somewhat tall with a medium sized build. I think he was blond. He was I think from the U.S., He was educated well and listened to what I said. I also do not remember what I said. Later we all needed to go somewhere and I discovered I only had flip flops that were shrunken to about 2/3 sizeed. I was laughing and wearing them anyway. I said something about my daughters putting them through the wash. They were tight on my feet, but the place was cluttered and things were all out of place and it didn't seem safe to go bare foot.

We were lining up for breakfast, French Toast? I could not see the whole picture in my mind, only the people immediately around me. Did I have money? Did I need it or was it already paid for? Can't remember.

So somewhere in this event, this man, who remained nameless, asked me out. He asked me to go to Kosovo with him. He said there was a nice place there where he loved to go dancing, and he described the feeling of the place. Kosovo?! Do people fly over the Atlantic on the first date? Weird. I was shocked and I said something to him about what would I do with my dog? But I wanted to go. The dream went on. As he was going into the other room, I overheard him....say to his companion that I would have a good effect on him. I felt flattered and surprised. But shocked at the invitation to go out 'to Kosovo'. Now then by this time in the dream he was either turning into the star of the Gods Must Be Crazy or he reminded me of that guy. I was thinking Wow, he's a movie star and he asked ME out. I was working and he was behind me and I was aware that I was not in my nice clothes but in grubby jeans and not conditioned and feeling fat and wondering whether he was checking me out physically and finding me unappealing and changing his mind. If he has seen me and still asked me out, then maybe physical conditioning is not so important to him at our age.

My girlfriend came to me later and said that guy wants to know if you want to go with him, he was serious. Without a moment's hesitation I said YES emphatically and we were together again and I was apologizing for not giving a clear answer to his invitation. Suddenly he was a potential new husband not just a date and again I was amazed that he valued ME. He and I were both older and I realized that you kind of look at people more realistically if you've been married. In my dream I thought of him saying "Ay yi yi yi yi" like the guy in the movie. It made me laugh, it attractcd me to him for him to identify with the guy who was clumsy with women, but this man, I don't think, was uncomfortable with women. It was something else that reminded me of that actor, maybe his looks? His work as a scientist in Africa? I don't know. For him to take me to Kosovo to dance meant he had money. It also meant he knew how to dance and liked to dance. I began calculating how fast I'd have to take dance lessons and practice! Answer, you really don't have time to get dance lessons...he doesn't mean next month. But I have always wanted to learn to dance and I was thinking maybe he could teach me. I know I CAN dance, I just need lessons before I'm too old. How did he know Kosovo? Was he an intellect, a scholar, a diplomat, an international business man? He is a traveler. I want to travel. To ask someone to Kosovo definitely means he's adventuresome. He definitely thinks outside the box. My best friend didn't try to come in between me and him either. She didn't flirt with him and try to divert his attention from me to herself (not how it was back in the days...)

I woke up sighing.....a romantic person to release me from all my present worries and take me far away to dance in Europe. Someone who is smart and yet still finds ME interesting and values me the first time he meets me. As I was waking, I was thinking: I think this was a Christian gathering, but I'm not sure. Was this guy a believer? He did not say anything about it, nor did I. I would in real life have to find out before I said yes. And besides, even if he were, how do you go to Europe on a date requiring overnight stay and avoid the appearance of evil? Ha ha. I'd have to ask him outright: we're in separate rooms, right? and you are not planning to come into my room, right? Why do you want to take me out?

About dreams, all my dreams are weird, but for some reason I wrote this one down. Since I've decided to move, I'm having even weirder dreams almost every night, some are frightening but not exactly night mares. I guess I find this one a little humorous.